Struggling in Silence: Singaporean Man in His 30s Opens Up About Financial Hardship and Depression

“A 32-year-old man from Singapore has sparked heartfelt conversations about mental health and financial stress after revealing on Reddit that he feels stuck, poor, and isolated, despite his best efforts to find employment.

Posting anonymously on the r/askSingapore subreddit, the man said he has around S$5,000 in savings and has been actively applying for jobs without any success. “I feel so behind compared to my peers, who’ve been working steadily for years,” he shared. “Everything here is incredibly expensive. I’m dealing with depression, and this situation only makes it worse. Right now, I feel like I’m at the lowest point in my life.”

In a vulnerable plea for advice and support, he asked the online community how he might begin to recover and move forward.

His message resonated with many, prompting fellow users to share similar experiences and words of encouragement. One user recounted being in the same position during the pandemic—jobless, diagnosed with depression, and with savings even lower than S$5,000. That person described slowly regaining stability by seeking medical help, exploring government aid programmes, and volunteering to stay socially engaged. “Take it one step at a time. Things can improve,” they urged.

Others suggested practical solutions such as considering temporary or part-time jobs in retail or food services, getting involved in social activities to reduce isolation, or pursuing counselling services available through polyclinics at subsidised rates. One commenter reminded him: “Having S$5,000 and no debt is actually a decent place to start. Don’t lose hope.”

Another contributor cautioned against the danger of comparing oneself to others, advising instead to “run your own race” and focus on self-defined progress rather than societal expectations. “Toxic comparison won’t help. Just take small actions forward,” they added.

Some expressed concern for the man’s mental wellbeing and stressed the importance of recognising depression early. “Mental illness is common and treatable,” one wrote. “Please seek help—not just for yourself but also for your loved ones. It doesn’t have to reach a breaking point.”

Depression is a growing concern in Singapore. A study by the Institute of Mental Health in 2016 revealed that about 1 in 16 residents had experienced depression at some point in their lives. Mental health professionals warn that untreated depression may lead to substance misuse, toxic relationships, isolation, and, in severe cases, suicidal ideation.

Healthcare platforms like Doctor Anywhere note that persistent sadness, lack of motivation, disrupted sleep or eating patterns, fatigue, and difficulty concentrating are all red flags. Recognising these symptoms early and seeking professional support or even opening up to someone trusted can make a vital difference.

For many who responded, the man’s openness was a reminder that emotional and financial struggles are more common than people might think. In a city known for its fast pace and high cost of living, his story served as a quiet yet powerful call for compassion, community, and action.”