Employer Seeks Advice After Finding Maid Wearing Her Clothes in TikTok Videos

“A concerned employer turned to Reddit this week for guidance after discovering her domestic helper had been using her clothes and lying on family members’ beds in TikTok videos. The issue came to light when the employer’s brother found multiple clips of the helper engaging in these actions, including one where she picked up the employer’s cigarette and mimicked lighting it.

The situation raised further concerns as it was not the first instance of boundary-crossing behaviour. According to the employer, a few months into the helper’s tenure, her mother noticed family photos appearing on the woman’s TikTok account. At the time, the only action taken was to instruct the helper not to use her phone during working hours.

Despite their generally relaxed approach towards household rules, the family has become increasingly frustrated. The employer explained that the helper has a relatively light workload, with free afternoons for additional chores, yet she often remains idle in the kitchen. Furthermore, after six months of guidance, she has yet to learn basic cooking skills from the employer’s mother. Another point of dissatisfaction is the helper’s habit of taking “extremely quick, one-minute showers.”

Uncertain about how to address the situation, the employer expressed hesitation in confronting the helper too firmly, fearing potential retaliation—especially since she is sometimes responsible for their young nephew.

Many Reddit users strongly advised the employer to seek a replacement as soon as possible. Some pointed out that wearing the employer’s clothes and using personal items without permission was a clear violation of trust.

“You’re paying someone to complete tasks, not adopting a family member,” one commenter remarked.

Another user questioned why the employer had not yet contacted the agency for a replacement, stating: “If she’s comfortable crossing this line, who knows what she’s doing when not being filmed?”

Others highlighted the risk of keeping someone who might “retaliate” in a household with a child. Several commenters suggested that, given the helper’s light workload, family members could temporarily take on additional chores while waiting for a replacement.

The post sparked wider discussions on employer-helper relationships, personal boundaries, and expectations within households.”